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Relationship Coaching
Individuals, Couples & Families
Premarital Education & Newlyweds
What is Relationship Coaching?
Relationship Coaching is a professional client-focused service where an individual or couple is assumed to be healthy, powerful and able to achieve relationship goals with effective support, information and guidance.
Relationship Coaching is the new way to the future and to making your good life better!
Remember that a big challenge for men and women today in committing to another person is the potential loss of personal identity and giving up personal hopes and dreams. Those losses would have been a virtual certainty in the old model of marriage and relationships. Not so today!
Why Is It So Hard To Find the Right Person and Create a Happy Relationship?
As human beings we have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The traditional way promised safety, belonging, continuity and comfort. The old model has been deeply ingrained in all of us by watching our parents and grandparents.
The old rules don’t work anymore! We cannot continue to depend on traditional, deeply ingrained beliefs, expectations and assumptions about relationships. We need to stop building the most important relationships of our lives on outdated beliefs, destructive myths, unrealistic expectations, faulty assumptions and non-negotiated roles and responsibilities.
Understanding the Changes: Creating New Rules!
For many adults today, dating has become a daunting series of rejections and disappointments. Finding your ideal match and creating a happy, long-term committed relationship seems all but impossible.
There are more single people today than ever in history – 82 million in the US; 40% of the adult population. The marriage rate is decreasing and is at its lowest in 30 years.
While the exact divorce rate is a matter of debate, somewhere between 40% and 60% of all marriages will end in divorce. Of first marriages, 43% end within 15 years. Of remarriages, 39% end within 10 years.
A huge paradigm shift is occurring in the very nature of the priorities that are occupying our thoughts and attention. Modern partners are concerned with living their vision, love of self, deepening emotional intimacy; “higher order needs” that require tools and skills necessary to create committed, loving and lasting relationships today.
Why Is It Important To Understand the Drive To Meet “Higher Order Needs”?
Forty years ago psychologist Abraham Maslow laid out the model for self-actualization based on the pursuit of meeting “higher order needs.” According to Maslow, after you satisfy your “lower order needs” including food, water and shelter, you strive to meet desires inside your deepest self to “become more and more of what you are, to become everything that you are capable of becoming"; “the continuous desire to fulfill potentials”; “to be all that you can be”; “a matter of becoming the most complete, the fullest, ‘you’.”
Many people in many countries are no longer living in survival.
Single men and women are interested in meeting their ideal mate; individuals who have shared values, a commitment to living in authenticity and the willingness to honor the fires of passion that burn inside.
Couples are demanding more intimacy and insisting on supporting each other to live their best “individual” life. At the same time, contemporary partners are committed to co-creating deeply meaningful relationships; relationships that are safe havens to be one’s most vulnerable self and open to the most sacred feelings shared with another; connections defined by joy and the hopes of a future that will be a lasting testament of their love and commitment.
How Does Relationship Coaching Help?
Helps you clarify your personal Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants
Supports you to answer the questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want?
Focuses on developing and practicing dating skills
Helps you become ready for a committed relationship
Supports you to stop a dead-end relationship before you get in too deep; develop a relationship plan; identify what is truly important to you in a mate; get a new relationship off to a good start.
Helps new couples be conscious and objective about the future of their relationship and clarify issues/challenges; uncover and resolve issues and obstacles that might hinder them from creating a relationship based on mutual respect, self-awareness and good will and good intention
Helps committed couples co-create a functional life-partnership; reduce conflict; resolve resentments and anger
Helps committed couples with a functional relationship deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love, and connection; develop skills, rituals, and practices for deepening emotional, physical and spiritual connection.
I would like to speak with Dr. Jackie about Individual, Couples or Family Coaching as soon as possible.
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