Are you single and serious about finding your ideal partner and co-creating a committed relationship? Get ready to share what’s on your mind and in your heart, and ask the important questions that lead to creating a meaningful relationship with your ideal match: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want?
Why Is It So Hard To Find the Right Person and Create a Happy Relationship?
As human beings we have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The traditional way promised safety, belonging, continuity and comfort. The old model has been deeply ingrained in all of us by watching our parents and grandparents.
The old rules don’t work anymore! We cannot continue to depend on traditional, deeply ingrained beliefs, expectations and assumptions about relationships. We need to stop building the most important relationships of our lives on outdated beliefs, destructive myths, unrealistic expectations, faulty assumptions and non-negotiated roles and responsibilities.
Understanding the Changes: Creating New Rules!
For many adults today, dating has become a daunting series of rejections and disappointments. Finding your ideal match and creating a happy, long-term committed relationship seems all but impossible.
There are more single people today than ever in history – 82 million in the US; 40% of the adult population. The marriage rate is decreasing and is at its lowest in 30 years.
While the exact divorce rate is a matter of debate, somewhere between 40% and 60% of all marriages will end in divorce. Of first marriages, 43% end within 15 years. Of remarriages, 39% end within 10 years.
A huge paradigm shift is occurring in the very nature of the priorities that are occupying our thoughts and attention. Modern partners are concerned with living their vision, love of self, deepening emotional intimacy; “higher order needs” that require tools and skills necessary to create committed, loving and lasting relationships today.
Why Is It Important To Understand the Drive To Meet “Higher Order Needs”?
Forty years ago psychologist Abraham Maslow laid out the model for self-actualization based on the pursuit of meeting “higher order needs.” According to Maslow, after you satisfy your “lower order needs” including food, water and shelter, you strive to meet desires inside your deepest self to “become more and more of what you are, to become everything that you are capable of becoming”; “the continuous desire to fulfill potentials”; “to be all that you can be”; “a matter of becoming the most complete, the fullest, ‘you’.”
Many people in many countries are no longer living in survival.
Single men and women are interested in meeting their ideal mate; individuals who have shared values, a commitment to living in authenticity and the willingness to honor the fires of passion that burn inside.
How Does Relationship Coaching Help?
- Helps you clarify your personal Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants
- Supports you to answer the questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want?
- Focuses on developing and practicing dating skills
- Helps you become ready for a committed relationship
- Supports you to stop a dead-end relationship before you get in too deep; develop a relationship plan; identify what is truly important to you in a mate; get a new relationship off to a good start
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