To assess your readiness to co-create a committed, long-term, primary, monogamous relationship based on shared values, commitment to living on purpose, with passion and personal integrity, rate yourself on each of the following indicators. Try to be objective and honest with yourself. We recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well.
Rating Scale: Rate each question on a scale of 1-10.
9-10:Very Ready: I have worked with a Relationship Coach for some time and I am prepared to make a commitment to the right person now.
7- 8: Becoming Ready: I am often nervous about the idea of commitment though I would like to settle down and get married sometime sooner than later. I am open to working with a Relationship Coach so I can become ready.
0 - 7:I am not even close to being ready: The whole idea of committing scares me and my relationship track-record isn’t “pretty”. I need more information, to learn good relationship skills and get to know myself better. I am open to working with a Relationship Coach so I can become ready.
1) I have challenged my attitudes, ideas and old beliefs about marriage. I am more aware of my personal strengths and limitations. I am reasonably clear about who I am and what I can provide to another person.
2) I have explored my attitudes and beliefs about career and marriage. I am ready to integrate the right person into my life and stay aware of the balance required to succeed with both.
3) I know exactly what I want my life and my love life to be like. I know myself well and I have a good awareness of the qualities I need and want in a partner.
4) I am open to stretching myself in various ways to create the life that I love and have the personal relationship I have always wanted.
5) I know the difference between compromise and giving in and I can communicate my needs easily and accurately.
6) I have given a lot of time and attention to becoming aware of my life’s purpose and passions.
7) I am living my life in a way that matches my personal style. I have a circle of good friends who value and appreciate me. I want to include that special someone as soon as possible. I am dating “smart” to achieve that goal.
8) I understand the value of knowing my strengths, limits, values, requirements, needs and wants in my relationship.
9) I learned about coaching a while ago. I like the idea of having a Coach offer guidance and information, and hold me accountable to achieve my goals and support me to make my hopes and dreams come true.
10) I want to hire a Relationship Coach today and start living the life I was meant to live and create the relationships I was meant to have.
Now total up you score:
90 – 100: Congratulations! You have done your personal work and you are ready to co-create a committed, long-term, primary, monogamous relationship based on shared values, commitment to living on purpose, with passion and personal integrity. I wish you all the best. Remember, Relationship Coaching can help committed couples with a functional relationship deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love and connection. You can develop skills, rituals and practices for deepening emotional, physical, and spiritual connection.
70 - 89: You are off to a good start!! You are becoming ready to co-create create a committed, long-term, primary, monogamous relationship based on shared values, commitment to living on purpose, with passion and personal integrity. It is time to hire a Relationship Coach and get to work! The relationship you desire is possible. First it is important to muster your courage and stop trying to love and be love based on faulty thinking, erroneous assumptions, beliefs and expectations. They are all limiting you or stopping you from creating the life that most reflects your values and passion and a love to share it.
0 –69: All things are possible! Know that! It is time to speak with a Relationship Coach. A Relationship Coach can help you clarify your personal Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants. Your Coach can help you answer the questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want? You and your Coach can develop and practice dating skills, communication skills and relationship skills that will support you and your efforts to create a life and a love life that match for you.
To assess your readiness to co-create a committed, long-term, primary, monogamous relationship based on shared values, commitment to living on purpose, with passion and personal integrity, rate yourself on each of the following indicators. Try to be objective and honest with yourself. We recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well.