It’s funny, isn’t it? We often focus on what we want without thinking to ask ourselves if we’re ready for it. Should 13-year-old kids have sex? Can we run a marathon without training? Just because you want something doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready for it. Ask yourself, “Am I ready for lasting love?” It would be a tragedy to finally find your ideal partner only to pass each other by like two ships in the night because you weren’t ready for the real thing.
Here is a short, but very important, 10-question quiz for you. To assess your readiness for a committed relationship rate yourself in each of the following ten areas. Try to be objective and honest with yourself. I recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well.
8 – 10: Very Ready: I have excellent Self-knowledge and I have spent the time necessary to discover the values, style and temperament of my partner that would be a good match for me (Partner-knowledge). I am ready to find the love of my life; and build a healthy, happy and lasting relationship now.
5 – 7 Becoming Ready: I am often nervous about putting myself out there again and beginning the whole dating thing. I wish I didn’t have to date and that I could just met someone, hit it off and that would be that. I am interested in hiring Dr. Jackie so I can become empowered, clear, conscious, and intentional in all areas related to dating and finding the right person to build a life and love life with. I understand that being ready to date means knowing myself well and knowing what I need and want from my partner. I believe that working with Dr. Jackie to clarify my values, my requirements, my needs and have a clear vision of my life and love life will support me to become really ready to date so I can finally find the right person for me.
0 – 4: I am not even close to being ready: The whole idea of dating is scary and unpleasant. I really can’t imagine dating a-g-a-i-n! I don’t even know where to begin. I need Dr. Jackie’s support and guidance. I understand that Dr. Jackie will support me to do my personal-growth work so I can know myself very well, and identify what I am looking for in a partner so that I can recognize my ideal partner during the dating process. That way, I will Date Smart and maximize my opportunity to find the love of my life for the rest of my life.
| 1. I know what I want: I have a clear vision for my life and relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated. | |
| 2. I know my requirements: I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will not work for me. | |
| 3. I am happy and successful being single: I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want, and I am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need. | |
| 4. I am ready and available for commitment: I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow my availability to build a new relationship. | |
| 5. I am satisfied with my work/career: My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle, and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship. | |
| 6. I am healthy in mind, body, and spirit: My physical, mental, or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good. | |
| 7. My financial and legal business is handled: I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. | |
| 8. My family relationships are functional: My relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. | |
| 9. I have effective dating skills: I initiate contact with people I want to meet, and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my physical and emotional boundaries, and balance my heart with my head with potential partners. | |
| 10. I have effective relationship skills: I understand relationships, can maintain closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertively, negotiate difference positively, allow myself to trust and be vulnerable, and can give and receive love without emotional barriers. |
Now total up your score:
90 – 100: Congratulations! You are well on your way to the life and relationship you really want! There is no such thing as being perfectly “ready.” What matters is that you are clear and conscious about whether or not you’re currently (meaning NOW) ready for the relationship of your dreams; or if your time would be better spent developing some important areas of your life to become ready. Remember, Dr. Jackie can help you stay on track as you Date Smart and make new decisions and better choices in your life. Download Chapter 1 of Dr. Jackie’s best selling dating book Meeting Your Match: Cracking the code to successful Relationships and watch for her new book Love Like a Black Belt: Cracking the code to being a happy couple.
70 – 89: You are off to a good start!! You are becoming ready for a relationship and you are well served to continue to date. It is time to hire Dr. Jackie and get to work! The relationship you desire is possible. First, it is important to deepen your Self-knowledge and then learn the all-important dating skills that will support you to date smart, and find the love of your life forever! Download Chapter 1 of Dr. Jackie’s best selling dating book Meeting Your Match: Cracking the code to successful Relationships and watch for her new book Love Like a Black Belt: Cracking the code to being a happy couple.
0 –69: Take it slow and don’t date any one person exclusively until you’ve addressed the issues that might get in the way of building the relationship you want and deserve with your ideal match; and learn and practice the dating tools and strategies that will support you to find the love of your life for the rest of your life. It is time to speak with Dr. Jackie. Dr. Jackie can help you clarify your personal Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants. She can help you answer the questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want? Dr. Jackie can help you develop and practice SMART dating skills, communication skills and essential relationship success skills that will support you and your efforts to find your ideal match and build the life that you love with the love of your life! Download Chapter 1 of Dr. Jackie’s best selling dating book Meeting Your Match: Cracking the code to successful Relationships and watch for her new book Love Like a Black Belt: Cracking the code to being a happy couple.
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