For most partners, it is equally difficult and uncomfortable to receive an apology as it is to offer an apology!

Offering and receiving apologies is an art and requires learning a few simple skills and practicing those skills often.

8 Simple Steps to Receive an Apology From Your Partner:

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Remind yourself that your partner is not the enemy.
  3. Remind yourself that your partner is a person who loves you, cherishes you, and values you; and who wouldn’t hurt you for anything in the world.
  4. Remind yourself that sometimes your partner will do or say something that will hurt your heart; and that it is not uncommon to feel a bit of distant when that happens.
  5. Keep breathing!
  6. Now, repeat after me:

“I believe that my partner is sorry that what they said (or didn’t say) or did (or didn’t do) that made me feel like they don’t care about me.

I believe that it was not their intention to say or do anything that would upset me or cause me hurt.

I choose to take in my partner’s acknowledgement that something happened that hurt me.

I choose to allow this apology to begin to repair my hurt feelings.

I choose to allow this apology to soften my heart, calm my upset and cool my anger.

I choose to allow this apology to soothe the wound in my heart now.”

  1. Then take another deep breath and be quiet.
  2. Allow yourself to begin to be transformed by your knowing that you are loved, respected and valued. Allow the power of apology to start the healing process.

Take a few minutes now and review the last three “posts” about Apologies.

These three “posts” represent the entire “Apology Process.”

Practice these skills and make it a priority to become an expert at offering, receiving, and accepting apologies. It will improve the quality of your life and love-life beyond measure!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC