It’s hard to believe that 2018 is over and 2019 is here.

The beginning of the year is a good time to take stock; to examine where you’ve been; where you are now; and what different, better or more you and your partner want for your relationship.

I invite you to spend some time reflecting on your love life:

  • What relationship shift or change did you want to make that you accomplished?
  • What relationship goal did you have that you didn’t achieve?
  • Did you experience any losses or disappointments? Have you spent time grieving the hurts associated with those losses or disappointments?
  • Anything unexpected happen? Have you expressed your gratitude?
  • Is there anything from last year that is incomplete that you want to complete or bring closure to this year?
  • Do you still need or want to say something to your partner that you haven’t said, or do something that you haven’t found your courage to do yet?
  • What dream do you have for 2019? What is your plan to make it a reality? Have you shared this with your partner yet?

These questions are just examples of Personal Reflection Questions that you and your partner can use to spark deeper personal inquiry that will build deeper connection between you and increased able-ness to be more and more vulnerable and less defended with each other.

My amazing Grandmother used to say, “A rolling stone gathers no moss.”

Loosely translated, that old saying reminds us to stay proactively engaged in our lives and resist becoming complacent.

  • Be the architect of your life and your love life. Don’t wait for something to happen to be the catalyst for your deliberate intention and attention.
  • Design your life and your love life for the rest of your life and be sure your design matches your vision for your life; your values; and your life purpose.
  • Don’t settle; compromise; or negotiate away that which is your right and your obligation to Be, Do and Have.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC ~

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