Are you an enthusiastic, appreciative receiver or does getting a gift make you feel uncomfortable?

Are you a spirited gift giver picking up small (or large) tokens of your esteem and affection wherever you go for the people you care about?

In a small survey I conducted over several months, I discovered 6 things:

1. Women tend to be more comfortable than men giving gifts to family and friends not related to a special occasion.
2. Women are more apt than men to give a gift to a friend.
3. Men are willing and eager to buy gifts for loved ones especially for special occasions, though they feel enormously uncertain most of the time that the gift they buy will be valued and appreciated by the receiver.
4. Men have less of a need to receive a personal gift than women, particularly for birthdays and anniversaries.
5. Men are more welcoming and appreciative of a wider range of gifts than women.
6. Women make more meaning of the gifts they receive than men.

Here are 6 Personal Gift Giving & Receiving Guidelines I’d like to offer for your consideration:

1. Giving a gift is the very act of saying, “I was out in the world, saw this gift, thought of you and bought it for you. Please know that you are special to me and I care for you.”
2. It is not important that people like the gifts you give, though you certainly hope they do. It is more important that people to whom you give gifts know that your “gifting” to them represents one of the ways you show that you care and that you are thinking of them.
3. If someone doesn’t like the gift or would prefer something else, you want them to feel perfectly comfortable returning or exchanging it. The really important outcome of your gift giving to the people you love and care for is that they know that you love and care for them.
4. Recognize why you give people gifts or don’t give people gifts. There is no substitute for Self-knowledge.
5. Be aware of what it is about receiving a gift that feels good to you; or uncomfortable to you.
6. Get really clear about the one thing about giving or receiving a gift that you would change so that it would be a pleasurable experience.

I hope you can make giving and receiving gifts fun and meaningful!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC ~

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