If your life is filled with discord and you don’t feel that others respect you, it’s time to set your boundaries.

Each of us experiences our reality in four ways:

  1. Body– what we look like;
  2. Thinking– how we give meaning to incoming data;
  3. Feelings– our emotional responses; and
  4. Behavior– what we do or don’t do.

Intact boundaries give measured protection to your body, thinking, feelings and behaviors as you evaluate and assess the words and actions of other people in your life.

You filter your experiences through your cognitive mind and your feelings. Through the use of your boundaries, you determine which words and actions you will accept and which you will block when they are unacceptable.

Again, we set boundaries to protect our body, thinking, feelings and behavior.

This week give some thought to how well you set and maintain your own boundaries and honor the boundaries of others.

  • What are your boundaries?
  • Where do you draw the line?
  • How do you react when someone invites you to honor a boundary they set?

To explore this more deeply, ask yourself these questions, pay close attention to your reaction to the questions and listen very carefully to any thoughts that bubble up.

Personal Reflection: In the past few weeks, have you felt intense emotion in response to something someone did or said to you? If yes, notice if …

  • You tend to give in;
  • You act against yourself or allow others to do things against your wishes;
  • You tolerate unacceptable conditions.

Also consider exploring…

  • What your family taught you about boundaries;
  • The ease or difficulty you have saying “no” or hearing your partner say “no” to you?
  • What your response is when your partner sets a boundary that specifically affects you?

We’ll talk about setting boundaries next Saturday.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC
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